A therapist has opened up about a red flag in men that is not always a red flag. 

Emily Cooper, a licensed clinical social worker, has more than 121,000 followers on TikTok, where she shares her experiences as ‘a therapist who sees a therapist.’

The Utah content creator, using the handle @therapybyemily, has recently posted a video about what she thinks of men who play video games.

‘Justice for the gamers,’ she wrote in the caption.

Emily Cooper, a licensed clinical social worker, opened up about men who play video games on TikTok, saying it’s not always a red flag 

The therapist noted that she had seen men ‘who have difficulty balancing gaming with other aspects of their lives,’ but not all gamers are like that (stock image)

Cooper, who has been married for 10 years, explained that there was a difference between a man who enjoyed a hobby versus a man who was addicted to one.

‘I know a lot of people who would be like, “Oh my gosh, I like this guy, but he’s a gamer, and that kind of bugs me,”‘ she said. 

Cooper noted that she has seen men ‘who have difficulty balancing gaming with other aspects of their lives,’ including their relationships.   

She agreed that would be a red flag, but she added the ‘important thing to remember is that is not all gamers.’  

‘There can be someone who enjoys a good video game and can also pause it to take out the trash and can also stop it to take care of the kids or go on a date or whatever,’ she said. 

‘And let me tell you this as someone who has been married for 10 years, once you get past that honeymoon period… I don’t want to do everything with my husband.

‘If I want to watch Magic Mike XXL [or] Fifty Shades of Grey, do I want him in there with me for my little movie night? No, I want him video gaming.’

Cooper said it was good for couples to have separate hobbies and interests as long as they supported each other. 

‘There can be someone who enjoys a good video game and can also pause it to take out the trash and can also stop it to take care of the kids or go on a date or whatever,’ she said

Cooper added that it was good for couples to have separate hobbies and interests as long as they supported each other

Cooper’s video has been viewed more than 25,000 times and has received dozens of comments since it was posted on November 7

‘My husband isn’t an artsy guy, but he will 100 per cent come with me to art galleries and be really nice and engaged about it,’ she explained. ‘So they don’t have to like it, but can they come with you to your thing? And vice versa.  

‘I don’t love sports games, but if I get invited to a Jazz game or something, I’ll go, I’ll be nice, I’ll have a decent time because it’s with someone I care about.

‘I also just wouldn’t want someone to judge me for my hobbies, like reading my little fairy-porn books, so I don’t want to judge someone else for their hobbies.’ 

Cooper’s video has been viewed more than 25,000 times and has received dozens of comments since it was posted on November 7. 

‘As a therapist that uses video games in session, they can be so therapeutic and beneficial,’ one person responded. 

‘Hubby is a gamer and it’s actually so nice I don’t have to worry about him being out of the house lol,’ another joked. 

‘This makes sense… but my issue is how addicting video games/tech is to our brains,’ someone else added.

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