A woman has beaten her nightmarish mother-in-law for buying toys for her future grandchildren, even though she doesn’t plan on having children.

Earlier this week, the unnamed woman, believed to be from the UK, explained on Reddit’s ‘Just No MIL’ forum that she and her partner haven’t been married for a year yet.

Describing how she is “constantly on her own business,” the woman explained: “I’m a very patient person and I do my best not to hurt her feelings or make her feel left out.”

“However, she treats me horribly, she’s an abusive narcissist who’s always throwing tantrums or crying to get her way, and overall she’s just horrible.”

Although they are still newlyweds, the woman says her mother-in-law is putting more and more pressure on her to start a family.

The anonymous Reddit user says that her husband can’t bring himself to tell his mother about his plans. stock photo

The woman continued: ‘She really started putting pressure on us to give her her first grandchild.

“She constantly talks about it with my husband and makes comments to him.”

Fortunately for the woman, she has been spared her mother’s worst comments, as she mostly directs them towards her son.

However, the wife says the weight of her mother-in-law’s expectations is really starting to get to her, especially as the women in her family have had difficult pregnancy and childbirth experiences.

She wrote: ‘I have a family history of terrible pregnancy complications, so my husband and I didn’t really plan on having children.

“It’s not something we actively wanted and the health issues are terrifying. Still, [my mother-in-law] keep pushing.

Last week, the woman’s husband traveled a few hours to visit his mother at her home, only to discover that she had started shopping for items for her future grandchildren.

She said: ‘My husband informed me that my MIL has started buying books and toys for these children that he wants us to have… He is making a reservation for them.

As the woman does her best to ‘avoid contact’ with her mother-in-law, she hoped that her husband would inform her of his current decision not to have a family.

She explained: ‘[He is] too scared to tell him because he knows it’s going to be an emotional battle.

“I just don’t know if I should step in and explain the situation to him to stop him or if it will just make our relationship worse.”

Furthermore, the woman went on to say that her husband now refuses to confront their mother, as she had previously relied on “manipulation tactics” to get her way.

He ended the post by saying, “She doesn’t have a lot of money either so I feel bad watching her spend money that she could use on her health or her house on hypothetical children.”

The post sparked a lively debate among forum members, with some arguing that she should confront her husband about her mother’s behavior.

One argued: ‘You don’t have a mother-in-law problem; you have a husband problem. It’s time for some limits. Set up exactly how many times you need to see your MIL per year for your husband to agree.

The woman’s dilemma sparked a lively debate among Reddit users, but most agreed that it was up to her husband to inform his mother of his decision not to have children.

‘2? 3? Hold these meetings in public spaces and drive separately from your husband. The minute she’s rude, ignores you, or crosses a line, get up and say, “That’s been lovely, but I have to go” and walk away.

Another added: ‘Totally out of their circle of control. Do Elsa a favor and let him go irooooooo

‘But, seriously. Tell your husband that you do not need to know this information. What he wants to talk to mom about is his problem. You don’t need to be in a relationship with her. And you don’t need to know about the visit at all.

“Their assumptions and expectations are not your responsibility,” said a third. “It’s in him to say, ‘Mom, stop wasting your money. We’re not having kids.'”

Following this, a fourth said: ‘You must not explain your reason for not having children. Doing so would surely strengthen her mistaken belief that it is somehow her business whether you choose to have children or not.

“Kids aren’t just toys, and your MIL needs to realize that,” said a fifth. We are talking about a human life here. You should only have children if you really want them. I’ve always wanted to be a mother, but it’s not for everyone, and it changes your lifestyle in ways some may find unacceptable.’

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