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WHEN Donna Johnson, 47, of Salt Lake City, USA, and her family took DNA tests, she never imagined the bomb that would go off in their lives.

She reveals how they broke the news to their 12-year-old son and tracked down his biological father.

9Donna Johnson, 47, of Salt Lake City and her family took DNA tests to learn more about her heritage.But he never imagined the bombshell that would shake their lives.9But she never imagined the bomb that would shake their livesVanner and Donna were unable to conceive naturally after she developed hernia problems and the surgery caused damage.9Vanner And Donna Couldn’t Conceive Naturally After She Developed Hernia Problems And The Surgery Caused Damage

Reading the DNA test results online, I thought there had been a mistake.

They said my husband Vanner, now 47, was the father of our oldest child, but the father of our youngest was unknown.

I desperately tried to understand.

Then, in a moment of sickening clarity, I realized that there must be a mix-up at the clinic where we had IVF.

I met Vanner, who works in financial software, in high school.

We got married in 2003 and had our son, Vanner Jr, who is now 18 years old.

We couldn’t wait to have another baby, but Vanner developed hernia problems and the surgery caused damage that meant we couldn’t conceive naturally.

In March 2007, we had our first round of IVF using my eggs and his sperm.

It failed, but that summer, we tried again and it worked.

When our son Tim was born in August 2008, it felt like a miracle.

Like many siblings, the children were different.

Vanner Jr had his dad’s blue eyes and blonde hair, while Tim had my dark hair and was sporty.

We were a happy family and Vanner adored both boys.

One day when the kids were older, for fun, we decided to do a DNA test to find out more about our heritage.

Six weeks later, in August 2019, the results arrived.

Quickly, our denial gave way to fear.

Who was Tim’s biological father?

Could they take Tim from us?

We contacted a lawyer, who assured us that we would still be Tim’s legal parents, which was a huge relief.

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But I struggled to see Vanner accept the fact that Tim wasn’t biologically his.

It was no different around him, but I could tell he was in shock.

I sank into depression and had a hard time concentrating on my job as a teacher.

With the help of a counselor, we worked it out and decided to tell Tim, then 12, the truth, thinking it would be worse if he found out as an adult.

In October 2020, Vanner took Tim out for ice cream to break the news.

When they returned, I hugged our son and told him how much we loved him.

He was very quiet and said that he loved us too.

Vanner later told me that when he broke the news, Tim took a few seconds to process it, then said, “Really? I guess I wish I knew what I would have looked like with your genes.

Tim handled it with such maturity, as did Vanner Jr, who said that Tim was still his brother.

A few weeks later, Tim said that he wanted us to find his biological father.

We respect your decision, but we were concerned about what might happen.

Using a second DNA test with another company, we found a woman we thought was Tim’s biological aunt.

Further digging uncovered a blog written by his brother, a man named Devin McNeil, who lived eight hours away in Colorado.

We could see that he was married with children.

We found Devin’s number online and knew that calling him would change all of our lives.

But it’s what Tim wanted, so in March of 2021, my husband dialed the number.

The two spoke in private while I waited anxiously in another room.

Later, Vanner said that Devin, 47, had been understandably skeptical, but agreed to take a DNA test.

Two days later, we all talked on FaceTime.

My anxiety was through the roof, but Devin and his wife Kelly, 46, were lovely and accepted that we didn’t ask for anything.

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There would be no custody battle as we all believed that Vanner was Tim’s father.

We just wanted to find out how this had happened and what to do.

In March 2007, the couple decided to resort to IVF using their eggs and sperm: Donna pictured about to give birth to their youngest child.9In March 2007, the couple decided to resort to IVF using their eggs and sperm: Donna pictured about to give birth to their youngest son.Six weeks after deciding to test his genes, the results came back.9Six weeks after deciding to test his genes, the results came backVanner struggled to come to terms with the fact that Tim was not biologically his: Tim pictured with both parents.9Vanner struggled to come to terms with the fact that Tim wasn’t biologically his – Tim pictured with both parentsVanner adored his son, Tim, before and after the results.9Vanner adored his son, Tim, before and after the results

We found out that we had been to the same IVF clinic on the same day, 14 years earlier.

I went for egg retrieval, Kelly for embryo implantation for her eldest son, Talon.

DNA tests confirmed that Devin was the father of Tim and Talon: the sperm samples had not been exchanged; instead, Devin’s had somehow been used for both.

Tim was excited when we told him we had found Devin and we met in June 2021 at a park near our house.

I tried to hide my nerves as the four of us greeted Devin, Kelly, and their children, Talon, 15, Paxton, 10, and Londyn, eight.

Holding a stranger I’d made a baby with was surreal, but some of my anxiety faded when the kids started playing.

When Tim went to ask Devin the questions he had prepared, like how tall he was at his age, and I saw how easily they spoke, I was finally able to relax.

It was weird seeing them together, but somehow it was okay.

I saw many similarities in their mannerisms and interests, rather than their appearance.

Kelly also handled the discovery well, and her concern for Tim’s best interests made me very grateful.

Just before we left a few hours later, Vanner asked Tim if he’d like a picture with Devin.

Tim replied that he would like a picture with both of his dads. almost cry

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If he could cope with this brilliantly, then so can I.

In the 20 months since, her love for Vanner is as strong as ever, and vice versa.

In addition to regular texts, calls, and video chats, we caught up with Devin, Kelly, and their children again in November 2021.

Then last summer we visited them in Colorado.

We reached an out-of-court settlement with the clinic in 2022.

We still don’t know how it happened, and it’s frustrating that the industry doesn’t adequately protect the families it serves.

Kelly and Devin are wonderful people.

They feel like an extension of our family – there is no secret or shame, just two families facing the future with love and friendship.

Kelly says: “Seeing Donna on FaceTime was surreal.

“While we were talking, I kept thinking: ‘This woman, whom I have never met, has had my husband’s child!’

“When tests showed Devin was Talon’s father, the relief was overwhelming.

“But the ramifications of what happened to the Johnsons were enormous.

“Despite our shock, Devin and I tried to stay calm.

“Telling the kids was nerve-wracking, but they accepted it, and even thought it was exciting.

“Devin has handled everything with compassion and care, and we’ve both worked with Donna and Vanner to help Tim connect with Talon, Paxton and Londyn.

“There have been times that have caught me off guard, like the first time I heard our children say they had three brothers, not two, but I have found that I can accept difficult things and turn a potential negative into a wonderful positive.

“My family is stronger than ever, and now that extends to the Johnsons, too.”

They found Tim's biological father Devin's number online and knew that calling him would change their lives.9They found the number of Tim’s biological father, Devin, online and knew that calling him would change their lives.Kelly says: 9Kelly says, “Seeing Donna on FaceTime was surreal. As we talked, I kept thinking, ‘This woman, who I’ve never met, had my husband’s child!’

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